Should Couples Write their own Wedding Vows?

“One of the most controversial things I do… is when I tell a couple, ‘You can’t write your marriage vows.’ … The reason I do it is because there is an assumption underneath that that my marriage is my thing… The wedding is a celebration of [my love to my spouse] and so everyone is here to see their facebook post that is live. That’s not what a wedding is. You don’t even necessarily know what you are going to vow to one another when you’re 25 years old and you’re coming together. You need the rest of the body who are coming in and preparing you to be with one another during Alzheimer’s disease, through the death of a child, through the temptation to commit adultery, through all of these things that you can’t imagine right now. So teaching your congregation along the way. This is a Christian view of marriage that is different from what the rest of the world is doing. That’s how you’re going to build a long and sustaining marriage culture.” (Russell Moore, 1:29:14) –

For more on this you can read this transcript.

About pjtibayan

P. J. loves Jesus Christ and lives to share life and share Jesus together with Bethany Baptist Church of Bellflower primarily to Southeast Los Angeles County. P. J. has been pastoring since 2002 and earned a doctorate in biblical theology from Southern Seminary (D.Min.). He blogs regularly at
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