This is not only for pastor-elders, but for all church members who must love their fellow members as Christ loved us.
This toolbox by Andy Davis is very helpful (Those Who Must Give an Account:A Study of Church Membership and Discipline, ed. by John S. Hammett & Benjamin L. Merkle [Broadman and Holman: 2012], p. 172).
Toolbox for Skillful Shepherding
|Member Condition||Spiritual Danger||Proper Response||Scriptural Support|
|Living fruitfully||Failing to Continue||Encourage; Praise||1 Thess 4:1; Phil 2:29|
|Lacking information||Doctrinal Ignorance||Teach; Instruct||1 Cor 12:1; 1 Thess 4:13; Acts 18:26|
|Needing to get moving||Laziness; Neglect||Exhort; Spur On; Urge||Heb 5:11-12; 6:12; 10:24; 2 Cor 9:4-5|
|Suffering Trial||Discouragement||Comfort; Console||2 Cor 1:4; 7:6|
|Starting to Go Astray||New Sin Pattern||Warn; Correct; Admonish||Titus 3:10; 1 Cor 4:14; Luke 9:54-55; Matt 16:23|
|Determined to Wander||Habitual Sin||Rebuke||Rev 3:18-19; Titus 1:12-13; Gal 2:11|
|Stubborn Unrepentance||Apostasy||Excommunicate||Matt 18:17; 1 Cor 5:5|