Paul Miller reminds us that we are often shaped today by the romanticism of the 1960’s. He writes,
“Deep within the American psyche is the 1960’s Romantic idea, originally from Emerson and Rousseau, that if something doesn’t feel natural, it isn’t real. We think spiritual things – if done right – should just flow. But if you have a disability, nothing flows, especially in the beginning” (A Praying Life, 222).
If we are to grow in loving God with all we are then we need to be aware of this lie. We are taught to think that if it doesn’t feel natural and just flow, it isn’t real. That is only partially true. It is often not real, but sometimes that real desire is hindered, disabled, and dysfunctional due to indwelling sin and the results of the fall. So if we struggle to love God freely and naturally, if we don’t delight in Christ or his Word, then we should not just drop our hands and heads in defeat and pray hopelessly that God would change us. God teaches us not only that we must love him, but by his grace grow in loving him. And this means fighting against our disabilities and dysfunctions as saints who are still sinners.