Sermon Notes for “Staying Married is Not About Staying in Love, Part 1” by John Piper
1. Marriage is God’s doing (4 reasons)
a. Because it was design in creation as man as male and female. Genesis 1:27-28
27 So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.
28 And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.”
b. Because he personally took the dignity of being the first father to give away the bride (Gen. 2:22).
c. Because God spoke the existence of marriage into being (Gen. 2:24)
i. Jesus believes Moses wrote this and that God spoke
1. Jesus said, God said, Genesis 2:24 (Matt. 19:
d. Because in the becoming of one flesh, a man and a woman are experiencing a union that God himself performs (Gen. 2:24)
i. Mark 19:8-9. God has joined those who are married. Do you feel the weight of that? It is not man, fiancé, pastor, or parents who join the two together. God does that. God is the main actor in the drama. God joins people together and no man may separate them! The world does not know this and that is why marriage is treated so casually. Marriage is God’s doing because it is a one-flesh union that God himself performs.
2. Marriage is God’s display – There is no other institution of this design as a display of God.
a. Ephesians 5:31-32. The one-flesh union refers to Christ and the Church. In other words, when God planned man as male and female, he patterned it on Christ and his bride the church. It wasn’t from marriage to Christ and the Church, but from Christ and the Church to human marriage.
b. All marriages are meant to point to the dying love and eternal union of Christ and the Church for the glory of God. The magnificence of husband and wife is to say, “That’s true! That’s true! And it’s like this!” This is what we display in our marriages. It is so tragic when we lie about the nature of marriage to the world in our marriages.
c. Marriage is not about staying in love but about covenant-keeping.
d. Side note: Small sermon hopes – Sermons are building blocks that are changing little by little with God’s grace. That is the normal effect of hearing sermons week by week.
e. Marriage is about covenant-keeping. There are many wimps in the world. I am in the business of putting fiber in the back bones of wimps to say to temptation and desires, “You are not my God! God is my God! Covenant is my life!”
Personal reflections and applications:
1. I want to take my marriage with my wife more seriously. I want to fight lust more victoriously. I want to be able to declare to her and with her, “That’s true! That’s true! Christ loves the church and is in covenant with her and it looks like this!”
2. I want to focus more on Christ and the Church in my marriage. I want to think about it more and worship God more for that reality as I see it and think about it in my marriage.
3. I want to take marriage more seriously and really make it a priority to do well in life, without distorting its relative importance to Christ himself and the priorities and relationship order he sets for his followers.
4. I want to edify my wife more with encouraging and specific words.